The Little Negotiator

Posted in Uncategorized on February 3, 2010 by Vanessa Cunningham

Today, we had lunch at Michelle’s house. During lunch, Michelle announced that she had either cookies or ice cream for dessert and Annelissa decided that she would have ice cream. After lunch Michelle searched the freezer only to realize that she was out of ice cream. I turned to Annelissa and said, “I am sorry, Aunt Michelle made a mistake but you can have a cookie.”

Annelissa sat quietly for a few seconds (obviously thinking about the predicament) then she looked at me and sweetly asked, “Okay, so can I have 2 cookies then?”

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Posted in Uncategorized on January 25, 2010 by Vanessa Cunningham

From the time that Annelissa learned to talk well she has been very inquisitive and asks a lot of questions. Every time I do not know the answer (for instance, to the question, “where is that man going?”), I respond, “I don’t know.”

“I don’t know,” is an unacceptable answer to Annelissa and every time I answer this way she says, “Can you try to think?”

Scratches

Posted in Learning the World on January 12, 2010 by Vanessa Cunningham

I gave Annelissa some lotion and she used way too much. Not wanting to touch anything while she was rubbing in the excess, she came to me and said, “Will you un-itch my ear?”

Ebenezer

Posted in Embassy of the Kingdom, Growing in Christ with tags on January 5, 2010 by Matthew Cunningham

Book of Remembrance

“…that this may be a sign among you. When your children ask in time to come, ‘What do those stones mean to you?’ Then you shall tell them that the waters of the Jordan were cut off before the ark of the covenant of the LORD. When it passed over the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan were cut off. So these stones shall be to the people of Israel a memorial forever.”Joshua 4:6-7

“Then Samuel took a stone and set it up between Mizpah and Shen and called its name Ebenezer; for he said, “Till now the LORD has helped us.” 1 Samuel 7:12

This year our family began a tradition of raising an Ebenezer to remember what the Lord has done for us. We found it a fitting time to enact that tradition at Thanksgiving. An Ebenezer is a remembrance that the Lord is our helper, sustainer, and provider. In Joshua, the text specifically says that the remembrance is for the purpose of teaching the children of God’s faithfulness towards his people, so that the children will not forget.

This year at Thanksgiving we asked everyone to remember something specifically the Lord has done in the last calendar year. We had some amazing responses as to what the Lord has done. Here are a few remembrances from our family:

  • Michelle is remembering God’s faithfulness towards her this year. Michelle had several trials that left her desperate for God. She entered 2009 with orders from the Army to return to active duty at the end of March 2009. As that date approached, she was diagnosed with having abnormal cells in her body. These abnormal test results ultimately led to her being delayed for reactivation into the Army. In the meantime, Michelle began to be pursued by Tyler. While Michelle was awaiting more tests and while her reactivation was delayed, she decided to move to Portland to pursue the relationship with Tyler. Within months, she has been released from her reactivation completely, she is turning up good test results, and she is married to Tyler.
  • Tyler is remembering that God has given him a wife. He has already quickly seen some of God’s intention for a wife, Michelle is such a means of grace in Tyler’s life. She helps him to understand parts of himself that he never knew.
  • Vanessa is remembering how God has, and is, teaching her to be more humble. It is more evident to her that she does not have a perfect husband or perfect children, rather by the grace of God, they are works in progress.
  • Matthew is remembering that God has given him a son this year. The Lord alone is the one who gives life, it is such a humbling reality to know that God would see fit to give me another child. Matthew is also remembering the difficult few months that his family faced through family strife, difficulty at school, difficulty at church, and difficulty at work. God has been faithful to be his family’s sustainer and source of joy. Through these difficulties Matthew has been shown who he really is, which is a step towards humility. In March 2009, Matthew and Vanessa asked the Lord to do a mighty work in their hearts, helping them to shed their pride and self-love. They are remembering that God was faithful to answer that prayer by using the circumstances of late.

We have decided to continue the tradition every Thanksgiving, but recently my family decided to make the habit of remembering the Lord’s favor just that, a consistent, tangible part of our lives. We have begun the Cunningham family book of remembrance.

The idea is that throughout the year we will record what the Lord is doing on our behalf. At the end of the year we will print out the pages that have been generated throughout the year, and put them into the book of remembrance.  We are planning on also including a few pictures that are significant to the Lord’s favor in our lives. Let it be known that all provision, peace, prosperity, growth, sustenance, etc. is from the hand of the Lord Almighty, please do not let this book diminish that ever important reality. Rather let us be as Joshua, who deemed it necessary to be certain that a specific event would not be forgotten.

The Pursuit of Joy

Posted in Embassy of the Kingdom, Sermons with tags on January 1, 2010 by Matthew Cunningham

I preached the weekend after Christmas at my in-laws church. I preached on the pursuit of joy, the beginning of the manuscript is posted here:

“Pursuit of Joy”

I have decided on this title because we are all on this pursuit. We are all chasing after happiness.  I think that it is particularly fitting to preach this type of message two days after Christmas. I think that most of us find ourselves in a depressed state of mind after Christmas, or a gloomy state of mind. It’s like watching the “train pull away from the train tracks, while you are standing on the dock still” state of mind. Or maybe it hasn’t hit you yet, but it will. Maybe it will come when the grandkids leave tomorrow. Maybe it will come when you go to put the tree and other decorations away. But I think that for us to be in that place yesterday and today puts us in a good place to be taught. Because if this gloomy, sort of, “that’s it”, feeling is present than it tells us something about ourselves. It tells us that the holidays have not ultimately satisfied us. For if the holidays had left you satisfied, we would not be feeling this way today. But we do, so it’s worth looking at.

Circumstances cannot be our primary source of joy. I was particularly reflecting on this in the past few days as we have been celebrating Christmas. We have had the privilege of spending the Christmas season with my in-laws, Dennis and Misty Griffin, at their home in Ocean Shores for the past four years. Every year it a wonderful time of eating, relaxing, and celebrating, and this year was not an exception.  We have had a wonderful time. But at our dinner table on Christmas Eve I posed a question to the group, I asked, “What makes the joy at this table different than a family in India who are much poorer and find themselves in a vastly different economic situation?” We were able to name several things that we different, things like size of home, quality of home, type of clothing, quality of clothing, type of food, and quality of food. But is the joy really different?

Let’s compare for a moment family in a much different economic situation to most of our families.

I am able to buy a car, they may not be. I live in a house with a heater, they may not. I live in a house that doesn’t leak very often at all. I rarely, if ever, find myself hungry. There legitimately are God-fearing, Christ-loving people in this world right now that definitely can’t say yes to all these things. In fact there are many that would say that they can’t have any of the luxuries I just mentioned. But the same Lord is sovereign over all. He loves all of his people infinitely more than we could ever fathom. So what gives then? Why do we get this and they get that? Here’s why, to show, through circumstances, that circumstances are not our joy. The Christ-loving hypothetical family I was just talking about, can be just as happy as we. They can experience the same joy at their Christmas dinner table without a car in the driveway, without a leak-free roof, without a heater, and with lower quality food.

The reason is, because our joy can only come from God himself.  Not in the circumstances that he gives us, but actually in all God is for us in Jesus Christ. Circumstances are only designed to satisfy us for a while. They are temporary satisfiers. That’s why we feel the way we do in the days after Christmas.

If our joys are found in things that are fleeting, what do we do when they go away? Earlier this year my second daughter, Alatheia Hope, was sitting in the living room and began to have a seizure. Her eyes are rolled back in her head, her lips are blue, and she is constantly convulsing. 30 seconds went by, one minute went by, two minutes went by, three minutes went by, four minutes went by, 5 minutes went by and she is still seizing on the ground.  We call 911 and the ambulance is dispatched. There is nothing we can do by cry-out to God. The ambulance arrives as she begins to come out of her seizure, but she still is unresponsive and breathing erratically. My wife gets into the amblulance and I get in my car with my two other kids, my brother, and sister-in-law. As we are following the ambulance to the hospital, I can see my wife through the rear window of the ambulance, she is crying and looks extremely frightened. I am haunted with the thought that when we get to the hospital, Alatheia Hope is going to be dead. At that moment I am struck with the realization that I have to say something to my passengers and I am going to have to comfort my wife when we arrive at the hospital. I have nothing to offer them, what I am I going to say, “If she does its alright, we still have another one?” That’s absurd, that doesn’t comfort anyone. I quote Psalm 73:25-26 to them, “Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you. Our daughter, our sister, our niece, our granddaughter, may fail, but God is the strength of our heart and our portion forever.” I must point these people (and myself) to a joy that cannot, does not, and will never fade or die.

The pursuit of joy ends when it finds Christ. Everything else is made to fail in ultimately satisfying your soul. Everything is made to point you to the person that can satisfy your soul.  We are were or are hell-bound sinners. Our rebellion showed itself in our pursuit of joy in a source other than God himself. God is jealous for his glory. He alone is the one of the universe to be praised and adored. When we find our joy in a place other than in the person of Jesus, we are elevating something above the one who is worthy.

That is the place we must find our joy. We must find our joy in the person and work of Jesus Christ.

Benjamin’s First Haircut

Posted in Uncategorized on December 30, 2009 by Matthew Cunningham

Benjamin had a serious neck crawler (the corner of his hair went into his shirt), so we decided to give him a little trim. He is such a sweet little boy, he just looked up at me smiling as I peeled him back some. Vanessa made me cut the first piece with scissors so she could save it (kinda gross for Vanessa if you think about it).

December 2009

Christmas Pictures

Posted in Embassy of the Kingdom on December 28, 2009 by Matthew Cunningham

We just got back from spending 4 days with Vanessa’s parents in Ocean Shores, WA. We had a wonderful time eating, drinking, celebrating and rejoicing. My Mom and sister Megan were also able to join us this year. In the pictures you can also see the birthday cake that the kids made for Jesus.

Christmas 2009

Wedding Pictures!

Posted in Uncategorized on December 16, 2009 by Vanessa Cunningham

Michelle and Tyler’s wedding photographer posted some wedding pictures on her blog. Check them out.

Annelissa had Surgery

Posted in Pictures on December 15, 2009 by Vanessa Cunningham

Annelissa had eye surgery this morning. God was gracious to our family and she is already back home resting. Here is a picture Matthew took of her before she went into surgery.

Sweet Morning

Posted in Learning the World on December 14, 2009 by Vanessa Cunningham

Yesterday morning I was sitting on my bed feeding Benjamin when the girls woke up. I heard them talking in the hallway. Annelissa asked Alatheia, “Do you want to hold hands?” and Alatheia responded, “yeah.” and then added, “okay, let’s go.”

Moments later they came walking into my room, hand-in-hand, with big smiles on their faces. It was a sweet way to see them greet the morning.